Sex Therapy Vancouver & Sexual Counselling in Vancouver

Sex Therapy Vancouver

Sex therapy Vancouver – “Sex is a vital part of our experience as human beings and a strong motivating force in our lives. It has the potential for creating intense pleasure and fulfillment or causing much pain and suffering”.
– Robert Firestone

Some of the sexual problems people commonly request help for are:

Sex Therapy Vancouver

Sexual problems are a source of great emotional pain. When individuals have sexual problems, they experience a disruption in the gratification of not only a primary need, but also one of life’s greatest natural pleasures. This stirs up intense feelings of inadequacy, guilt, and frustration in not only the person experiencing the problem, but also the partner. I believe that the best way to treat a sexual problem is to conceptualize it as a couple issue. Regardless of which partner has the problem, both contribute to its maintenance. Progress occurs when both partners take responsibility for their part in the problem. For a description of how I treat addictive/compulsive sexual behavior, and male problems of sexual performance, including clinical cases, click on the links above.  For a description of how I treat low sexual desire, including a clinical case, see below.

Low Sexual Desire

Low sexual desire or inhibited sexual desire is the number one sexual problem with couples. Approximately one in three women and one in seven men report low sexual desire. Low sexual desire manifests itself in low sexual marriages (defined as having sex less than 25 times a year) and non sexual marriages (defined as having sex less than 10 times a year).

Sexuality in low sexual and non sexual marriages assumes an inordinate, negative role, robbing them of 50 to 75 percent of marital satisfaction. When sexuality goes well, it is a positive but not major component, adding 15 to 20 percent of marital satisfaction. Healthy marital sexuality serves the positive functions of creating shared pleasure, reinforcing the relationship attachment, and reducing tension related to the stresses of life and marriage. Because low sexual and non sexual marriages lack the “inoculating effect” of healthy marital sexuality, they are more likely to end in divorce than marriages in which sexual desire is intact.

Approach to Treating Low Sexual Desire

My approach to treating low sexual desire is eclectic, combining elements of cognitive-behavioral sex therapy, and Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT). This eclectic approach stresses a one-two combination, in which each individual assumes responsibility for his or her own sexuality, and both partners work as an intimate team to address the couple issue of low sexual desire. For the sake of clarity, the process of change is described in five discreet steps. In actuality, these steps are overlapping and recursive. The steps are illustrated using the clinical case of a woman experiencing low sexual desire in a non sexual marriage.

Clinical Case: Woman Experiencing Low Sexual Desire in a Nonsexual Marriage

For more information on Sex Therapy Vancouver & Sexual Counselling in Vancouver you can contact me at 604-873-0222 or info@pauljames.ca.